In my humble opinion, Fight Club is one of the best movies of all time. If you haven’t seen it, and plan to, you may want to stop reading now, because some major spoilers lie ahead. I’ll wait.
The first rule of Fight Club is that you do not talk about Fight Club. I’m a rule-breaker by nature, so I’m about to blab it all. If you’re still reading, that means that you agree not to get mad at me for basically giving away the plot of the movie. Pinkie swear?
It’s been a little while since I’ve seen the movie, but here’s what I remember. There’s this somewhat geeky office guy (I forgot his name), played by Edward Norton. He meets Brad Pitt’s character, Tyler, who is a total hottie and bad-booty, and together, they come up with this thing called Fight Club, where guys get together and basically beat the mess out of each other.
I’m not a huge fan of blood and violence, so I didn’t see this movie until a few years ago. What drew me in was that after I saw Inception, I went on a hunt for other psychological mind-freak movies, and saw that Fight Club was on many lists. So, I decided to give it a shot.
Beware, *spoilers* lie ahead: as you watch the movie, you see Tyler rubbing off on Edward Norton little by little, until at the end, they drop the bombshell on you. It turns out that Tyler and Edward were the same person all along. Whoa!!!
The Tyler in Us All
Yesterday, I was driving to band practice and listening to Voxer. In one of the groups I was in, the conversation shifted to how powerful the mind can be, in allowing you to accomplish more than you thought possible. I added my two cents, and got back to driving, then began rehearsing our new material. I wasn’t satisfied with how I sounded, and realized that I’d have to get my confidence up before arriving at practice if I wanted to sing better. So, I asked myself, “how would Sarahdateechur sing this song?”
Then, it all came together.
I’ve written about how I’ve survived (and even occasionally thrived) as a shy, introverted person in situations that have required me to be outgoing. I’ve done so by channeling Sarahdateechur. It probably sounds ridiculous, but I’d be willing to bet that many of us have alter-egos of our own creation. Little kids may be onto something when they create their own superhero personalities and pretend. I’m just saying.
What if we were to create these fictional, better version of ourselves, and just become really good at imitating them? To the outside world, it would appear that we were that person. Truth be told, we ARE that person, but sometimes it’s easier to pretend it’s someone else.
In the movie, people would see Edward Norton, but when he was “Tyler,” they would ascribe that behavior to him. I vaguely recall a scene when he was in his boss’s office, and tearing the room up. That was all Tyler, but the boss saw Edward. To the boss, Edward is dangerous. Edward is crazy. But Edward didn’t see himself that way.
Take that scenario and flip it upside down. Sometimes we think that we are less-than…not as good as we can be. Why not pretend that our alter-ego is, then do our very best imitation of that person? For example, I was super-hype over this Google Glass app called “Race Yourself.” I don’t know if it ever came out, but I was intrigued by the concept. How engaging would it be to run alongside a representation of yourself, trying to beat your best time?
Growth mindset, I’m not sure. However, I will say that although I tend to be shy, it has helped me tremendously to “pretend” that I’m Sarahdateechur (not Sarah…there’s a difference) when I’m in a professional situation. Even if I do a horrible imitation, it’s much better than I would do otherwise.
Recently, I made the drastic move from K-8 to high school, within a new content area. Truth be told, I was very nervous at first, never having dealt with this age group before. However, after getting some great advice from my friends, family, and colleagues (and a prior video of myself, surprisingly enough), I decided to try it.
If I were to do this, I would have to be on my A-game. Being someone who even has trouble looking people in the eye, it would be a struggle to project confidence. So, I pulled off my best imitation of Sarahdateechur, the teacher who I would want to have if I were a student. She is confident, kind, fun, inspiring, fair, and innovative.
Trust me, it feels ridiculous to type this…but that’s exactly what I did. Sarahdateechur has taught my classes the first three weeks of school, while Sarah has done the work behind the scenes. The co-teaching model is working well so far, and I hope to maintain this partnership 😉
The Rules of Fight Club
Ha…ok, these aren’t the original rules. However, here are some tricks that have helped me, and will hopefully help others:
- Create your persona. Trust me, it might seem weird or awkward…it still does to me…but whatever works, works. Don’t let feeling silly stand in the way of results. If it helps, you can feel free to apply the first rule from the movie: you DO NOT talk about your alter-ego.
- Dream big. This persona/alterego/educational superhero…he or she can be whatever you choose to make him/her. What kind of teacher/principal/coach/superintendent/etc. would you want to have if you were a student? Create this person in your mind.
- Don’t make excuses. Superheroes don’t have excuses. If there’s something blocking their way, they go around it, above it, through it, whatever they have to do to save the world. When you face a challenge, educate yourself on how to overcome it by talking to your PLN, reading up on the topic, whatever you have to do to find a solution. Never stop trying.
- Be the change. Each week in my classroom, I put a quote on the board, something I carried over from coaching basketball. The quote might be for my students, it might be for me, or it might be for the world at large. Gandhi once said, “be the change you want to see in the world.” This was last week’s quote, and it resonated so much with me that it might reappear. If you want a kinder, fairer world, you must be a kinder, fairer person. Our alter-egos will probably know this, and should act accordingly.
- Seize the magical moments. What makes a superhero/alter-ego great? Well, if we look back through comic book history, it usually boils down to one magical moment. There was that very first time when the superhero had the choice to help someone with their superpowers, or go on with business as usual. The same goes for us. We are already awesome, as we are helping our students. But remember, our alter-ego is constantly pushing us to go even further. Sometimes we get great ideas that can change the world, or help someone else, but often we think that we’re not “good enough” to make them happen, and these good intentions fizzle out and die in our brains. News flash: you are more than good enough, and YOU can bring that idea to life. If you don’t believe me, ask your alter-ego.
No matter how small we may feel, we all have the potential in us to be great. Many times when we feel inferior, or that we can’t do something, we can push through it and thrive. Sometimes the trick is simply to visualize it, and to do our best imitation of the great person who will get it done. Even though we may sometimes think otherwise, we ARE those people. Activate your inner Tyler, and see what greatness you will achieve.